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Pssst…DAD

Debra Totton
09 May 2015
Blog, Parenting
Comments: 0
appreciation, Dad, gratitude, kids, love, Mother's Day, Parenting, teens

I have a secret I’d like to share with you.

Do you get frustrated helping your kids shop for Mother’s Day? read more

You are beautiful

Debra Totton
01 Dec 2014
General
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aging, beauty, calimesa, counseling, mom, self esteem

Let’s get real for a moment.  I panicked, oh yes I did.

I was getting ready for work and decided to check my face using the mirror that magnifies 10 times.  I was specifically trying to see if I had unwanted hair growing on my upper lip *wink*.  To my utter amazement I saw brown spots and spider veins…on my face!
This is where I began to panic and my stream of thought went something like  this.   “What if one of my kids gets married and I look Old?  Wait what?  Remember when you were 40 years old and you saw your mom’s legs peeking out from under my dress?  Oh yeah, and when I turned 50 my mom’s hands were attached to my wrists?” read more

The Journey of Growth

Debra Totton
29 May 2013
General
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Changes, Debra J. Totton LCSW, Discouragement, Grace, growth, hope, Therapy

Everything was ready.  Another therapist would be seeing my clients.  My surgeon was confident.  I was excited that I would be walking within two to four weeks without limping or pain in the knee.  On May 25, 2012 my life changed.  Rather than a simple meniscus repair my “hoffa pad” had to be trimmed down due to impingement.  I was one of the few who had nerve disruption and an increase in swelling due to my body’s reaction to the anti-inflammatory.  I had lost control of my days and life.  This has been a long year of physical therapy, acupressure, stretching and icing.  Sometimes I managed this ordeal with grace.  Other times I slipped into discouragement.  But quitting was not an option. read more

What your kids want you to know

Debra Totton
30 Mar 2012
General
Comments: 0
abandonment, children, Communication, Debra J. Totton LCSW, divorce, fighting, love, Parenting, respect, teens

Over the years I have seen many children and teens of divorced parents.  I have observed that many times the divorce does not stop the parental fights.  In the chaos of the divorce many parents forget that the primary concern is now their children.  So I have decided to share what many kids want you to know. read more

Oh No

Debra Totton
29 Feb 2012
Communication
Comments: 2
children, children and grief, Communication, Debra J. Totton LCSW, grief

It happened again!  Somehow my blog for January just disappeared.  Poof it is out there somewhere floating on the super highway called the Internet.  Did I do what my 24 year old said to do and back it up?  Nope, I did not.  Did I write it in a document first and then transfer it over here?  Ummm, NO!  Why am I discussing this on my blog?  It is quite simple really I am having a grief reaction.  That’s right, I am grieving the loss of something.  We all do this several times a day with the loss of our keys, missing an appointment, being put down or maybe the loss of a pet, a dream, or bigger still the death of someone we loved. read more

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Debra J.Totton, LCSW
1025 Calimesa Blvd, Suite 5A
Calimesa, CA 92320

909.289.6800
dbtotton@gmail.com

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