Many new moms are given this advice, “rest when the baby rests.” It is important to do this so you have the strength to enjoy your new little one. The temptation is to get caught up on cleaning while the child is resting which deprives you of the energy it takes to build that relationship. If you think about rearing a child into adulthood successfully it is through the relationship that is established from the beginning.
To keep on task think in terms of making memories. Will you want to remember the developmental milestones of your child/children and fun times you created or will you want to remember how clean your home was? I am not advocating that you keep a filthy home or neglect other duties but that you learn to prioritize what is important. We can forget what is important when we juggle home, work, child rearing, school, appointments, grocery shopping, cooking, meetings/club, church and the relationship with your significant other. After awhile time passes and we don’t know who our children are because we did not take the time to build and maintain the connection.
Here are 5 tips to help in relational building:
~ Take the time to listen to your child. Give feedback to them to let them know you are hearing them.
~ Laugh together. If mealtime is challenging keep it light. Tell some jokes or make up some silly food games.
~ Take some time to play with your child no matter what age.
~ Love your child. Give them a hug, pat on the shoulder, or gentle touch on the back. Tell them daily.
~ Work together. Prepare meals together, work in the garden side by side and talk while you work. When kids have something to do with their hands you will find they will be able to communicate their thoughts and feelings.
Start today to build on your relationship. Keep building everyday even when you hear “go away and leave me alone”. During those moments remind them you are here and you love them. May you have fun building the relationship you want with your child.