In November I reflect on something that I am grateful for each day. Here are some that I posted on facebook. “A quiet crisp morning, the smell of coffee brewing, yellow, red, and orange leaves falling to the ground and contentment in my heart.” “So blessed to have a job I love.” “Time spent with family is pure joy.”
Young adult: “My mom was so mean to me! She made me do chores!”
Me: “What kind of chores?”
Young adult: “Dusting, mopping, vacuuming, and washing dishes.”
Me: “How old were you?”
Young adult: “I was in High School.”
Me: (stunned silence)
I was having breakfast out prior to the big holiday shopping spree. There was a grandfather having a breakfast conversation with his two grandsons who looked to be about 9 and 12 years old. My ears perked up when he said, “We need a plan…” He continued, “Well, your grandma is in on the plan and stands ready to wrap anything we bring home. And the best part is that she will keep your gift a secret!” They were talking about a strategy for shopping for the boys’ parent. I began imagining all sorts of fun they were going to have implementing their plan, learning how to give meaningfully to others. These types of conversations help to reinforce the values of gratitude, respect, and appreciation that we want to nurture in our children.