It happened again! Somehow my blog for January just disappeared. Poof it is out there somewhere floating on the super highway called the Internet. Did I do what my 24 year old said to do and back it up? Nope, I did not. Did I write it in a document first and then transfer it over here? Ummm, NO! Why am I discussing this on my blog? It is quite simple really I am having a grief reaction. That’s right, I am grieving the loss of something. We all do this several times a day with the loss of our keys, missing an appointment, being put down or maybe the loss of a pet, a dream, or bigger still the death of someone we loved.
Grief is a normal reaction and encompasses the “stages of grief” by Kubler-Ross.
Many times your children may come home in a “bad mood” and we just assume it is just that…a bad day. Having a bad day can be simple grief but you won’t know unless you ask, “what has happened to make you sad?” They may tell you about being embarrassed in front of the class. To this you can apply the phases, “wow, you must have been really surprised by that.” Let them talk then say something like, “did you feel angry?” Again, let them emote. You can then say something like, “I would feel depressed and sad if I was made fun of as well.” They will agree and usually come up with things they wish they had to avoid the embarrassment. You can say, “I am glad that you know your options for next time” and then suggest some more hopefully healthier ones. Finally, offer a hug.
You have just taught your child how to go through the grief process and how to communicate their feelings to you.
As for me I will just keep learning about the complications of the computer, Internet and saving documents.