Over the years I have seen many children and teens of divorced parents. I have observed that many times the divorce does not stop the parental fights. In the chaos of the divorce many parents forget that the primary concern is now their children. So I have decided to share what many kids want you to know.
It happened again! Somehow my blog for January just disappeared. Poof it is out there somewhere floating on the super highway called the Internet. Did I do what my 24 year old said to do and back it up? Nope, I did not. Did I write it in a document first and then transfer it over here? Ummm, NO! Why am I discussing this on my blog? It is quite simple really I am having a grief reaction. That’s right, I am grieving the loss of something. We all do this several times a day with the loss of our keys, missing an appointment, being put down or maybe the loss of a pet, a dream, or bigger still the death of someone we loved.
You must understand that technology is not my thing. The first time I saw a computer was when my husband bought a Comador 64. I personally had and still have a typewriter. We upgraded to some other computer of which I can’t remember. This computer was handed down to my then 5th grader. This computer became all mine in 2007 when I decided that my practice needed to become more up to date. I started my first website using this clunky machine.
“Telephone” was a popular social game when I was growing up. Here is how it is played. Get some people together and sit in a circle or stand in a line. One person is told three or four sentences. That person whispers to the next person what they think they have heard. This continues until the last person has to say it out loud. In the end it is obvious how jumbled up those sentences are from the original sentences.
Many new moms are given this advice, “rest when the baby rests.” It is important to do this so you have the strength to enjoy your new little one. The temptation is to get caught up on cleaning while the child is resting which deprives you of the energy it takes to build that relationship. If you think about rearing a child into adulthood successfully it is through the relationship that is established from the beginning.