Your child is in the emergency room again while you stand there feeling helpless and not knowing what to do. Your child comes in the back door from school and you notice he is sporting a black eye and a split lip. You discover your adult child has been in an abusive relationship. Have you ever noticed that when our children are in pain – whether that pain is physical or emotional – parental guilt seeps into our minds? We begin to doubt parenting choices and we wonder if we could have prevented the harm they have fallen into. Added to our already overly doubtful mind is the guilt of not being able to give 100% to our child’s problem. We experience irrational behaviors of not eating well, becoming sleep deprived, not taking breaks or exercising.
Yelling is everywhere these days. We see examples of this at sporting events, in stores, in the parking lot and some while driving their car. Wikipedia lists several reasons for yelling/screaming: 1 “Fear and Surprise” the result is to call attention to yourself. 2 “Happiness” which conveys a positive emotion to others. 3 “Danger and Pain” which informs others of danger. Reading on it cites the battle cry, death growl and rebel yell as more options to consider. Interestingly that this falls under oral communication to prepare for a battle.