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Ready. Set. Action!

Debra Totton
30 Apr 2011
Communication, Parenting
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action focused, Debra J. Totton LCSW, emotion, exhausted, grumbling, Parenting, role model, rules, safety, teen

Parenting a pre-teen or teen is an incredible roller coaster ride. You may feel so excited that you are communicating with your teen. The two of you are in sync. Life is smooth. Just when you are feeling at the top of your parenting game your stomach turns to knots as the roller coaster plunges you into feelings of inadequacy with the turmoil of emotional fights. read more

Grieving

Debra Totton
29 Mar 2011
General
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acting out, anger, bargaining, children, death, Debra J. Totton LCSW, denial, depression, dies, parent tips, somatic complaints, teen

Grief, mourning and bereavement are fancy words to describe the phases of adjustment that we go through during a loss. A loss for a child/teen can be from a death, health, divorce, change in school, moving, break ups, being bullied, theft of personal property, intrusion or violation. read more

Impulsivity and the Holidays

Debra Totton
29 Nov 2009
Communication
Comments: 0
ADHD, alcohol, children, Debra J. Totton LCSW, drugs, forgetfulness, high risk behaviors, holidays, impulse control, impulsive, parties, pre-teen, teen

Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, better known as ADHD is a developmental disorder.  As parents of these kids it is common to lament about the lack of attention, forgetfulness, or the amazing energy that sometimes can not be channeled.  While all of these symptoms are challenging it overshadows the real problem of the child/teens lack of impulse control. read more

Planting

Debra Totton
22 May 2009
Communication
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anger, brain, child, Debra J. Totton LCSW, gentle touch, hatred, kindness, listening, love, rearing, teen, tuning in, understanding needs, words

I have been playing the cutest game called “Farm Town”.  Now Farm Town is about building a community that will help you harvest your crops, keep in touch, and tend to your farm while you are away (from the computer).  We plow and plant, arrange crops and trees, expand our property and eventually have enough coins to buy a house.  If I am short of coins, I can to to the marketplace and seek out a job. read more

Drama…Drama…Drama……DEAD

Debra Totton
19 Oct 2008
General
Comments: 1
child, Debra J. Totton LCSW, drama, emo, lonliness, relationships, sadness, suicide, teen, tween, withdrawal

Charlie Brown and Chris (According to Chris) have many thing in common.  Both are trying to navigate life amidst the drama of relationships at school and at home.  It is sad and exhausting to watch these “characters” try different ways to shed the drama only to be a target of criticism and ridicule with their peers. read more

Debra J.Totton, LCSW
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Calimesa, CA 92320

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